Archive for October, 2011

Impact of Divorce on Children

Friday, October 7th, 2011

When going through a divorce, many times the main concern is the children that get caught up in the crossfire. It is something to be concerned with. What parents don’t know is that they control how the divorce affects the children. It is not the divorce that leaves children damaged, but the way that the divorce is handled. It’s hard to label a divorce as “good” but what this means is that the divorce is dealt with in a calm manner between two mature adults. The kind of divorce that causes harm to children often results from a marriage that harbor tension or violence.

The way that the divorce unfolds is a good predictor of what life will be like after the final papers are signed. It also is an indicator of how the children will perform in school or outside life. If the parents are constantly fighting and involved in litigation, children can become distracted or caught up what is going on at home and this can cause poorer performance at school. Children can also feel that it is their responsibility to support his or her parents. By doing this, children take on the emotional baggage that their parents are dealing with and it prevents children from focusing on their schoolwork and the social aspects of their lives.

A good divorce puts much less stress on the children. For this kind of divorce to occur, parents must understand that their reactions to the divorce directly coincide with how their children will respond to the divorce. If the parents respect each other and remain genuinely civil throughout the divorce process, than children will feel less of a need to step up and become the parents’ crutch. When children aren’t focusing on their parents’ divorce, they can continue with their lives and place their focus on their friends and school.

Going through a divorce can be difficult. Finding the right lawyer will help you deal with this change going on in your life. David Nelson, Attorney at Law, has spent over 30 years practicing law in Kansas. He knows how to handle these cases in the best way. He understands how sensitive and serious these situations are and the impact that it leaves on families.  To serve you better, Mr. Nelson offers a free consultation so that you to get a feel for your legal options and for you to see if he is right for you. Mr. Nelson is qualified and experienced and is a great choice to help you through this time. Call (316) 267-1300 today to set up your free consultation.

Avoiding a High Conflict Custody Case: How and Why

Thursday, October 6th, 2011

In the life and times of an individual today, many things are different than that of a person from back thirty or forty years ago. Technology has changed, laws have changed, and more importantly attitudes have changed. Today, people are more accepting to the reality of the situation rather than back in the day. From finances, to opinions on society people are consistently setting the standard differently, and in their own individual way. Divorce is also different than it use to be. Divorce rates have risen greatly compared to that of many years ago mostly because people know their rights, and understand what they need to do to continue on with their lives properly. However, with so many divorces going on today there are bound to have those that go very easily and those that go awful.

Studies have shown that children take divorce harder than any parent going through the overall process. Although the parent is losing a spouse, the child is losing a parent that they see everyday, which could go to only certain amounts of time of the year depending on what the custody is sentenced to by the court of law. From there, children must then face more hardships such as moving from what they once called home to another location.

With a new town, comes a new school, which also leaves the child without immediate friends. Having a child with all of these issues coming up so fast, and in a world of loneliness and change so new to them it gives leeway to many issues to occur within their future. Statistics show that children who deal with all of these issues can easily become dependent on drug and alcohol abuse, as well as have more probability in seeing the inside of a jail cell within some point of their life.

Divorce is a sticky situation on every that is within it. However, children are the true individuals who deal with every aspect of the divorce, and most of the time carries the burden behind their silence. However, children should not have to suffer from a difficult divorce, and their wellbeing should be considered when either one, or both parents are processing any decision.

Going through a divorce can be difficult. Finding the right lawyer will help you deal with this change going on in your life. David Nelson, Attorney at Law, has spent over 30 years practicing law in Kansas. He knows how to handle these cases in the best way. He understands how sensitive and serious these situations are and the impact that it leaves on families.  To serve you better, Mr. Nelson offers a free consultation so that you to get a feel for your legal options and for you to see if he is right for you. Mr. Nelson is qualified and experienced and is a great choice to help you through this time. Call (316) 267-1300 today to set up your free consultation.

Divorce and Children, How Do You Break The News?

Wednesday, October 5th, 2011

Life is an ever expanding, ever changing path that we travel everyday. From the time of an individual’s birth to their eventual death, many factors and events affect our lives on a daily basis. From accidents, to success our lives can be great one day, and then be awful the next. However, divorce is obviously not one of those good days, or times within someone’s life, especially if you have children. However, with so many things going on in a person’s life when experiencing a divorce how does one tell the news and the future possibilities to the children they have?

There are many ways that a parent can inform a child of the divorce, as well as anything new that is coming resulting from the divorce. In an ideal world, both of the parents would sit down together and discuss with the children the reasons why it is happening, what they will do in the future themselves, and especially whether or not the children will experience any major changes from the divorce. However, this is the real world, and most of the time it is one parent or the other.

When informing a child of divorce it is important to explain the short-term plan that deals with what parent is living where, and options of where the child will stay until a custody court date is set, and legal guardianship is placed. Of course, it is expected that children will want to know as to whether or not they will be moving. Whether or not you are moving, make sure to inform the children of things like where your moving, when, for how long, and how visitation or the proposed living situation will be.

Also, make sure to be as civil as you possibly can. During this time in your life, it is very hard to keep it together, but make sure that there aren’t any details really left open for the children to build on, or blame the other parent for doing something that caused the divorce. It is especially important to also not use children as therapist. They neither have enough experience to deal with the problem, more or less advise an adult.

Inevitably, problems happen, and what we do with them will follow us in future times. When dealing with a divorce make sure when telling your child to put their best interest first whatever the circumstances maybe.

Going through a divorce can be difficult. Finding the right lawyer will help you deal with this change going on in your life. David Nelson, Attorney at Law, has spent over 30 years practicing law in Kansas. He knows how to handle these cases in the best way. He understands how sensitive and serious these situations are and the impact that it leaves on families.  To serve you better, Mr. Nelson offers a free consultation so that you to get a feel for your legal options and for you to see if he is right for you. Mr. Nelson is qualified and experienced and is a great choice to help you through this time. Call (316) 267-1300 today to set up your free consultation.