Archive for October, 2012

Having Doubts Before Your Marriage?

Monday, October 22nd, 2012

In our life we experience a great deal of change, especially when it comes down to the relationship we have, and hold with others. As we grow up our relationship between ourselves and our parents changes over time from that of strictly a parent-child one to that have a loving, and long-lasting friendship. Another type of relationship that changes with time is one that individuals have with their “potential significant other”. In our lives we begin relationships by dating individuals, eventually holding the title of a relationship, and eventually, if circumstances are right, become engaged. Yet, if you are feeling doubtful before your marriage, or anxious in all the wrong ways what should you do?

Think About It, Take A Second

Statistics clearly state that within the United States today one in three married couples seek out that of a divorce. When you become divorced you’re not only going through a painfully hard, emotional process, but also an expensive, and legal one as well. However, many people today are asking themselves “Why didn’t I stop it from the beginning when I had that feeling?” Pre-wedding jitters are a very common aspect of getting married, which is also known as “getting cold feet”. When a couple finally reaches that pinnacle moment right before the big day they begin to think about their future with, and without their new spouse-to-be.

Now, or Later: Your Call

Usually, these feelings are just a sign of nervousness and excitement. However, sometimes they can be clear indications of what can soon come. Many couples feel that when they have doubts before they are married that they are simply just over thinking things and can work through whatever potential issues their mind has to throw at them. While some prevail, many times, other couples who saw issues before they were even married, and pressed on for marriage end up seeking a divorce very early on in their marriage.

When you are feeling doubts prior to your marriage the best advice anyone can give is to talk to your fiancé about what issues come to mind so that they are addressed now versus later. However, if you are within a marriage and considering divorce for multiple reasons you need an experienced divorce attorney to help you from start to finish.

Going through a divorce can be difficult. Finding the right lawyer will help you deal with this change going on in your life. David Nelson, Attorney at Law, has spent over 30 years practicing law in Kansas. He knows how to handle these cases in the best way. He understands how sensitive and serious these situations are and the impact that it leaves on families.  To serve you better, Mr. Nelson offers a free consultation so that you to get a feel for your legal options and for you to see if he is right for you. Mr. Nelson is qualified and experienced and is a great choice to help you through this time. Call (316) 267-1300 today to set up your free consultation.

How Communication With Your Former Spouse Can Worsen Your Divorce

Monday, October 15th, 2012

Relationships are one aspect of our lives that we encounter each and every day. When it comes down to relationships there is not a single particular type, or are something that you can expect to be seen everyday. Ultimately, relationships deal not only with one individual, but another as well and they bond that they share whether it is positive, or negative. One relationship that certainly requires bonds that compliment one another is that of marriage. However, many individuals are overlooking the facts and issues that lie in front of them prior to their marriage, which is ultimately ending with many divorces today.

Talk That Talk

Unfortunately, problems are not being solved prior to vows being exchanged, and the words “I do”, which is ultimately leading to an increased number of divorces within the United States today. Statistics and facts within the country show that not only are one in three married couples seeking a divorce today, but are also dealing with highly sensitive, difficult divorces. While some divorces can go very smoothly, especially when couples mutually come to an agreement, and stance pertaining to a divorce, other times not only the couple going through the divorce, but also their friends and family are in for a whirl wind of issues.

Call Me Maybe?

One issue that many individuals going through a divorce do not understand is how much communication should go on between one former spouse to another, and how it should be done. In many cases we see individuals sending emails, texts, or leaving voicemail that are full of their anger, rage, and raw emotions pertaining either to a former spouse’s behavior, their actions, or the divorce itself.

The fact of the matter is when you send a written message, or leave a message on a voicemail machine you are leaving evidence, which can and will be used against you within your divorce if you are not careful, and worded properly. The best way that you should communicate with your spouse is either through your attorney, or contacting the individual through a phone call with witnesses present in order to authenticate anything that may be used against you in court.

Going through a divorce can be difficult. Finding the right lawyer will help you deal with this change going on in your life. David Nelson, Attorney at Law, has spent over 30 years practicing law in Kansas. He knows how to handle these cases in the best way. He understands how sensitive and serious these situations are and the impact that it leaves on families.  To serve you better, Mr. Nelson offers a free consultation so that you to get a feel for your legal options and for you to see if he is right for you. Mr. Nelson is qualified and experienced and is a great choice to help you through this time. Call (316) 267-1300 today to set up your free consultation.